Pooter -
congratulations on your treatment decision and surgery date.
As far as post op recovery goes, everyone is different. Here is my personal experience, for what it's worth.
I didn't have pain post op, but I took a lot of meds for nausea - it just wouldn't stop! It was probably related to the anesthesia, my dizziness and balance issues, plus I had double-vision for a day or two after surgery.
I didn't have headaches - still don't - but others do.
I remember everything post op once I woke up in the ICU room - I don't remember waking up in recovery at all. My kids visited me the second day post op - they wanted to come the first day, but I wasn't ready for them. I thought I'd look "bad" to them, but with the exception of the huge, white, mastoid bandage wrapped around my head I looked normal. I'm sure it was a scary experience for them though since they'd never seen me ill, in a hospital, etc. I think my kids are older than yours, so you may want advice from someone with younger kids.
My balance issues could be compared to the "drunken walk" that many refer to on this forum - basically bobbing and weaving. But the body compensates for balance issues and does adjust over time. Walking helps. My doc also gave me balance "exercises" pre op that I continued post op and they helped a lot. I think after the first few weeks or so my balance had adjusted fairly well. I remember walking into the doc's office for my first post op appointment and I was doing great. I still have slight balance issues today, but nothing like they were post op.
IMO there should be no issues in waiting 4 weeks for surgery. Many wait longer than that while they are researching their treatment options. ANs are normally very slow growing - I am an exception to that - but I was just a "weird" case
I had retrosigmoid and had a mastoid bandage wrapped around my head for a few days post op; I assume they use the same or something similar for translab.
Hope some of this helps you,
Jan