Hi AmandaLeighCecilia .....
Many of us on this forum can fully understand being SSD when no one else but others who are SSD can understand.
My Oticon Medical Ponto abutment was implanted during my second AN surgery, during which I knew I would be deaf in my AN ear from the translab surgery. That being said, there are many others who have had the implant done as a separate procedure. You might want to look into the newer less invasive implant surgery. See: http://www.oticonmedical.com/about-oticon-medical/News/ponto-bhx-implant.aspx#.Vo8bhpMrJBw
I had no bleeding, oozing, rejection nor infection of my implant. There was initially pain from the overall translab surgery, which basically was gone in a week to 10 days.
My family and friends, who knew about it were all excited about the prospects of my being able to have better hearing. Sometimes I tell people I have a BAHS, if I am in a noisy situation and having difficulty sorting out where the sound is coming from. Many times people are totally unaware I have a hearing issue.
Hair over my processor has no affect unless I touch it directly. Sometimes a very strong wind will make it whistle or if the hood on a jacket gets too snugly onto it.
Hats and headbands have to be able to go over or under it. Sometimes the abutment can be placed accordingly ..... it all depends upon where you have strong, solid skull bone. I would take my favorite hat or headband to a pre-op appointment and ask if you have a choice on placement.
This forum is full of support so ask away and someone will answer your many questions.
Thoughts and prayers.