I'm also fairly new to this. I was just diagnosed on 10-15. It can be scary and overwhelming and like you, I still have days where I am sad about this. I think it is ok to feel a little scared, sad or mad. Honestly, though, it is going to be ok! You will hear from so many fabulous people who made it through all of this and are leading normal lives now. You are still fairly young and you are healthy, so you have two big pluses going into this. This board has helped me so much. The people here are so supportive and always willing to answer any questions.
We all go through a tough process deciding what procedure is right for each of us. I'm still going through that process. In the end, I think that Jay has a point that the right decision is whatever is right for you. I think you will find only support here no matter what you ultimately choose.