The best place to start is to ask your husband what he want or expects of you. I'm trying to think (remember) what I felt like at two years post-op from my first resection and it is difficult (13 years ago). I remember feeling very hurt early on in my husband and my relationship, I kept the baby moniter turned up high because I sleep on my good ear and I was the one to respond most nights, I guess he found the "white noise" irritating and turned it right down, forgetting about my hearing, I got up and turned it up and everytime I turned it up that night he got upset and after a few times at this he got agitated and started yelling, I got upset and started yelling, we weren't married at this point and I basically told him if he can't stand living with the necessary habits of a hearing impaired person he should get out. Try your best to be mindful of his hearing loss and stand on his good side (or sit) etc, also it might be needed that he talk to a doctor (family doctor will do) about how he feels about all this, many people don't realise how much this experience has affected them emotionally. , let him be the one to adjust the level of noise on the t.v., if it's too loud for you maybe he could bet a set of headphones, my father's don't interupt with my mother hearing the t.v. the usual way. Kathleen
