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yardtick

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My brother is dying.
« on: January 06, 2011, 12:33:17 pm »
I'm just the bearer of more very sad news.  My brother Danny is in the last stage of his life.  He has been in the hospital since mid Nov.  He went in because of complications of diabetes and the hospital was having a problem containing a C-dif outbreak, of course because of his weaken state he came down with it.  The treatment has been brutal and it hasn't been successful.  His diabetes has also gotten worse.  Dan has had two surgeries for gangrene in the last week.  Monday he decided to stop all treatment, he doesn't want any more surgeries.  He took half a treatment of hemodialysis so his daughter and her family could come in from Ottawa and say their good byes.  Now we are keeping him company, waiting for him to fall asleep, slip into a coma and gentle pass away.  From what we all understand it will be a painless and very peaceful passing.  

Dan will leave behind a wife of 50 years, three grown children, seven grandchildren, two brothers, two sisters and many nieces and nephews.  He served in the Canadian Military for 30 years.  Please keep him and my family in your prayers.  This is a very difficult journey for all who loved him.  The memories that are flooding my mind stop me in my tracks.  He is a true hero.

Anne Marie
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Re: My brother is dying.
« Reply #1 on: January 06, 2011, 12:37:26 pm »
Anne Marie, I'm so sorry and my prayers are with you and your family. I have to leave to take my MIL to the doctor, but I will write more later. My dad passed away under similar circumstances and it was a very peaceful end. God bless Danny.

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Re: My brother is dying.
« Reply #2 on: January 06, 2011, 12:42:49 pm »
Anne Marie~
I am truly saddened to hear this...while I am sad for all involved, my heart is truly breaking for YOU - you have been through so much lately and lost some very special people to you.  My prayer is for PEACE for YOU, Danny, his family and everyone there.  Wish I could just give ya a great big 'ole hug!

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« Reply #3 on: January 06, 2011, 01:10:59 pm »
Anne Marie:

I will keep you, your brother, all your family in my thoughts and prayers.

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« Reply #4 on: January 06, 2011, 01:17:48 pm »
Oh, Anne Marie, you have had WAY more than your share of grief and sad news lately.  You and your brother and families are all in my prayers!

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« Reply #5 on: January 06, 2011, 01:26:55 pm »
So very sorry to hear this, Anne Marie...prayers and thoughts are with you and your brother's family. 

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« Reply #6 on: January 06, 2011, 02:02:44 pm »
I am so very sorry.  I will keep you, your brother, and your families in my thoughts.

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« Reply #7 on: January 06, 2011, 03:13:08 pm »
Oh, my dear...you have had to bear so much lately!  Prayers go up for strength and peace.  Your brother sounds like he lived an honorable life, and I know he will be greatly missed by all who knew him.

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« Reply #8 on: January 06, 2011, 03:45:32 pm »
Anne Marie ~

I'm so sorry to learn of the impending loss of your brother.  I've not the slightest doubt that he was a good man as well as a beloved brother to you. 

Lean on your friends for strength, and always remember how much you are cared about.  Peace, prayers and blessings.

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« Reply #9 on: January 06, 2011, 05:31:19 pm »
I'm at a loss to hear of this, AnnMarie.  The bloke and I send our love, our prayers and hugglez.  He is being strong for you all and I know you are doing the same as well.  What a lovely life he has lived....... let his love for you, his family carry you through this most difficult time.

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Re: My brother is dying.
« Reply #10 on: January 06, 2011, 05:47:55 pm »
I'm so sorry to hear this. You and family will be in my prayers..
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Re: My brother is dying.
« Reply #11 on: January 06, 2011, 07:50:26 pm »
Hi Anne Marie,

I am so sorry to hear this, after the recent loss of your dear friend. This is really too much to take, so I hope you will find the courage within you to deal with it. At least your brother will not suffer and he will pass peacefully surrounded by people he loves.

I will be thinking about you.
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« Reply #12 on: January 06, 2011, 08:09:23 pm »
Anne Marie, I am so sorry.  So much tragedy in such a short time.  Know that I am keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers.  Be kind to yourself and don't forget to take care of you.  Hold your loved ones close.
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Re: My brother is dying.
« Reply #13 on: January 06, 2011, 08:59:08 pm »
Anne Marie,

May you and your family be embraced with love and healing prayers
and comfort during this very difficult journey. Cherish each other, and hold on to the memories.
Blessings to you and your loved ones,
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« Reply #14 on: January 07, 2011, 12:03:51 am »
Thank you so much for all of the kind words, prayers and support.  It means a lot to my family and to me.  I will update.

Anne Marie
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