Soundy,
Have been reading/following this thread and my heart goes out to you...you have been through a lot these last few months, and as we all know, there is no rule book on handling such situations.
I believe that you are doing everything you can, while considering your family and your own needs.
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My husband is an only child and we had to work through some of the difficult decisions while raising children...
We offered to have my mother-in-law and her sister live with us, as they grew older - but they wanted to stay in their home town 4 1/2 - 5 hours from where I live.
So we did the best we could at the time, and suffice it to say, I wish I could have done more.
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And recently, for my dad, the same thing, living the same distance away from me.
Fortunately, my mom is in excellent health and could visit when my dad was in the nursing home.
He could be cared for and they had people who could help him with daily needs that my mom could not.
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I am SO GLAD to hear that your dad is feeling better and has a safe place to stay.
I will say prayers for you, your aunt and your cousin, as you continue this journey.
As other have said, we are here for you.
Sincerely,
Sue