Thanks Jan...but here's the rub and it's all old news: We did ask surgery vs. GK. We asked Mom's neurologist, her ENT, her PCP. In our neighborhood they treat the GK as if it's this Ginsu Knife-everyone should have one! (This GK MD is so big that we had such a small town mentality that we just felt so $%*damn honored to wrangle an appointment with him.) I asked repeatedly, over a FOUR YEAR period, to all about the good and the bad or in THEIR terms the risks vs. the benefits-even minutes before he screwed the frame into Mom's skull. I asked about Mom losing her hearing and balance and yes, death. Mr. GK MD said since her hearing wasn't affected prior, it won't be after the GK...and if she has any issues, he'd prescribe some steriods and she'd be good as new. It's all blah, blah, blah and those great moments Mom had are in the Archives. We took notes, we taped every appointment. We did due diligence. Decadron should have a Black Box warning. NOW the bigger issue is because Mr GK MD is such hot stuff, it's tough to find even a neurologist who is willing to see Mom.
My mother's head has become this political football. (A bad outcome by the esteemed GK MD-IMPOSSSIBLE!!!) This isn't paranoia-my sisters and I have been told straight out. (We never filed a complaint or a malpractice lawsuit.) Doctors will always back up their cronies (even the bad ones). Sadly, I can never reveal where we live-I appreciate your kind offer; we're not in your time zone is all I can say-then the $%^& would really hit the fan. If he bullied my mom in a MRI last year and the hospital administrator didn't intervene, well there you have it. Mom has just become this footnote. He completely looked through her in the waiting room; she was devastated-she thought he was an honorable man. My mother was basically held captive-she had no choice-for more than 1.5 hours. Her panic attack was brought on by thinking they found something. No one explained that she was being scanned twice. This guy is GOD. In the meantime, I ask RNs and PTs that we've met through the years for local referrals. (Mom's not in any condition to fly.)
This whole thing is the definition of a Double Whammy-you got your nasty AN, you got your nasty/incompetent/ignorant MDs. Makes for a real, real, real long day. I'm hoping that Mom's ENT can fill in the gaps. What I suspect will happen is that the ENT will have Mom scanned at the facility he prefers and then we'll have another inconsistency. I'm thinking the Truth is out there-but we won't know for another 6 months (when Mom should be scanned again).
This sucks. To all...thanks for listening...and I hope today was a better day than yesterday.