I have had single ear deafness (left grade) since I was a child (discovered in the lst grade most likelyl from a childhood illness according to the audiologist) and have compensated fairly well, except I can't tell which direction someone is speaking from and it is rather embarrassing when I look the other way or don't look up. I have recently gotten a hearing aid in my better ear which is working okay but I still have difficulty at times.
I am seeing an Ear, Nose, Throat specialist this day because I woke up in the middle of the night on Wednesday and could not hear (SSHL). I have been taking predisone for 3 days as the audiologist stated there was a 48 hour window to restore hearing loss. I will know today if and how much damage may have been done. I will tell you that I am now in my fifties so as you can see I have been living with single sided deafness a long time, however, this is the first time I have ever experienced SSHL. It was frightening. Even though I have had a rough time living in what I called a "better than nothing hearing world" I could not imagine not hearing at all.
So, to answer your question about choosing not to have something done as opposed to having something done. I wish I would have swolled my pride and admitted I had a hearing problem at an earlier age. However, I don't believe we would have the tools or technology that we have today that would have benefited me back then.
I am going to see the Audiologist, Dr. Daniel R. Schumaier, who patented the TransEar and just happens to live in Johnson City to see about whether this could help since it is placed in the deaf ear and would not require me wearing the canal hearing aid I now wear in the right ear. Although, I must admit after reading the postings the complaints about the TransEar being "buzzy" is worrisome. I did not know about the Trqanscrainal Cros but I will check out the web site posted by chrissmom and talk to my audiologist about it.
I am sorry this posting is so long but I am a newbie. So please bear with me.