I had my surgery mid-August, and completely relate. My drs tell us that I am recovering with amazing speed, and I “graduated” PT, but still struggle many days.
The hearing loss is more difficult than I expected, as there are activities in which I may look ok during, but it just is not working. I told my admin today that I can do no more lunch meetings (just can’t have a good discussion, too loud) and I bailed on dinner 2 of 3 nights during business travel this week (too loud). The patience of people as I remind them what ear doesn’t work makes a big difference. But adjusting to a new normal has hit my confidence harder than expected.
What Helps is when my husband acknowledges that we have a new normal, but doesn’t let me wallow in it. And to respect my need to rest (as Alyssa notes). A lot of rest.
And walk. Lots of walking. Good to get the space (time) and support to do it.
Finally, just today I reminded myself that it’s not even been six months and — it was brain surgery ...healing will take time.
Everyone is different.