Hi - each of us has our own experience, and like you say those are all over the place. I would keep in mind as you do your research, how recent each experience is, as it seems that both surgery and radiation options have come a long way in the last few years.
My own experience was that the surgery is no walk in the park, but after a few months, I have less symptoms than I had prior to surgery. Also, there was no pain that I couldn't manage with the prescriptions they gave me to manage with. (I think 3 or 4 times total I was watching the clock for half an hour or so before taking something). I needed longer off work than they originally told me - 14 weeks vs 7, but I couldn't return while experiencing fatigue as I travel out of state and must be on the ball the entire time I'm working. I've been back a couple months and fine.
I couldn't advocate one treatment over another, but I wish I'd know about my tumor earlier (it was 3.1 cm at diagnosis) as I think nixing these things early should make treatment easier and more likely to succeed. You've found the biggest body of information on these tumors on this website - lots of bedtime reading that should help you form your own opinion as to which way you should go, so poke around, watch the webinars, and make a list of questions for your physicians.