I am 36 and was feeling much the same way you were...what was the best treatment for me, and very curious of the outcome of others.
A few weeks back I went ahead and scheduled surgery through the military (hubby is in the AF). That's when I made my first post here. I was scared, doubting myself, and seeking help, and direction even though my message might not have come across that way. I also started contemplating radiation because I was afraid the surgeons here we're not the most skilled. Although they work on wounded warriors, and I am sure they're skilled in other types of brain surgeries, I was still feeling very unsettled. I called as many people as I could. My nurse friends, my grandmother who had radiation for cancer, etc. I was wanting the answer to pop up in front of me, and would cry telling my husband that I just wanted someone else to make this decision for me!
Through my phone calls we learned someone from my husband's hometown worked for Dr. Friedman @USC Keck Medical. She saw him years back for the same tumor. It was immediate relief after we connected. I sent my scans to him, and was able to have a phone consult the day he recieved them. It was a little strange how it aligned, but I've decided to have the surgery there, and I'm scheduled April 7th. We're in Texas, so we'll get to fly out, and hopefully have some beach time on some waters that aren't brown.
It is such a personal decision. I opted for surgery because of my symptoms. I have severe facial tingling, a nasty taste in mouth, and the tinnitus is making me crazy. I also have headaches often on my AN side. My fear with radiation was those symptoms would increase. It scared me too that through radiation the tumor might swell before it shrinks. With my symptoms, I just want it gone.
Everyone is so different, and there are so many different reasons people choose their treatment option. I'm not sure if I really answered your question, but I hope I helped somehow. I tend to ramble!
For me, Dr. Friedman recommended translab surgery. I will lose my hearing in my right ear. I am still scared, but know I'm in good hands, so that makes it a little better.
I'll post more as my surgery gets closer, and in the mean time feel free to message me. Oh yeah, my surgery is scheduled exactly one week before my 37th birthday! Yay! Happy birthday to me!
Good luck in making your decision. It's not an easy one, but your gut will lead you in the way that's best for you. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers!