I just wrote a long reply to all of you and when I went to post it, it disappeared. I can't stay on the computer for too long because of my neck.
What I said it that it really hurts when people disappear and desert you. My shrink told me that my daughters of tired of my problems I've had ever since they were little girls. Even my husband in the divorce deposition said I had neck problems that he was tired of hearing about. I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and so do my daughters and their children. The children are even worse because they have cafe au laid spots on them as does my daughter. What comes with all this is chronic pain and degenerative disc disease. People just are sick of hearing about it. So don't go to them. As Jim said you are going through this process and are discovering who the keepers are. I am having another brain surgery next Friday morning and don't feel good about it. I have to get inside myself and take it. Every surgery makes me worse with the exception of Dr. Ducic who fixed my pain on my head and my laparoscopy. During that laparoscopy, the nurse wouldn't discharge me to my father who was panicking and called my poor daughter out of class in high school....she is now 34 and had her take the bus to Washington to be there to take me home. It wasn't fair to her. She was only 14. I have an illness that needs a lot of care. I also am recovering from an AN and the surgery next week is part of that recovery because I went to Johns Hopkins.
Keep the keepers and drop the rest. Surround yourself with keepers and you'll be better for it. I know AN survivors really understand where you are coming from so they will never disappoint you. It is a long hard road we walk but we don't have to walk it alone.
PM to me and I will give you a call when you need it. We are all here for you.