You've gotten loads of great advice so far. Take the holidays and enjoy, and come back to it after.
My kids were 9 weeks and 3 years when I was diagnosed. (They're now 8 and 5, and we've added a third who's 20 months). My AN was 1.8cm when I was diagnosed, and I spent a year just watching to see what it would do. At the time my only symptom was hearing loss. It turned out that my AN was growing much faster than average (a year later it was 2.3 cm), so after many appointments and consults and much soul-searching, I decided to move forward with surgery (kids were 4.5 and 1.5 when I had surgery). I had no long-term effects from the surgery other than complete hearing loss (no facial palsy, no headaches, no balance issues, nuthin'), which is manageable. I was taking care of the kids on my own at about 6 weeks post-op, though utterly wiped at the end of the day.
I'm now 4 years post-op, and rarely even think about my AN. I try to remember to come here and lend support whenever I can, but life gets busy with three young children. The time of diagnosis/treatment is scary and difficult, but you get through it eventually. Life will go on.
Enjoy the holidays, and please continue asking any and all questions you can think of.
Katie