Just a belated HI. Sounds like you are on the right track getting all your duckies in a row.
The issue with your father is very tricky. You do NOT want to have to worry about lifting or assisting him when you get home.
Unless you have 24 hour care in the home, the nursing home sounds the safest for at least the first couple of weeks.
It is unbelievable the cost of care. It just blows my mind
The size of your tumor is small, so think pos, you should recover fine.
Balance/dizziness are very common symptoms post op. Plus the fatigue of course.
Hopefully your daughter who is the judge can stay with you when you get back for a week....?
We lived in Bethesda, MD for 3 years, and then later on in beautiful WALDORF MD for 8 years (military). I have heard it has grown and grown down in that area.
Things will work out, the answers will come. You will feel so much better.
Does your father understand the issue with his age? Is he confused? Of course he doesn't want to be "abandoned" but just keep reminding him....BRAIN SURGERY....
Hang in there,