lmonroe, 2.5cm is considered large, and your facial symptoms are not a great sign.
microsurgery is a pretty big deal, but if performed by a team with a lot of experience specifically with ANs, you can have a great outcome. the larger the tumor gets, the higher the rate of complications after mainly involving facial paralysis - temporary or longer term.
ANA site has lists of surgeons around the US who do a lot of these surgeries.
have you confirmed if yours is growing or not (i.e. 6 month followup MRI)? quite a few neuromas are stable or even a few are shrinking, in which case wait & watch could be a good option.
I was personally not comfortable with the idea of radiation, just as many of the folks who choose radiation are not comfortable with the idea of microsurgery. it comes down to personal views and preferences.