Hey Lisa,
I'm sorry that this aspect of what we have is getting to you. I'm just finishing up my first week back full time (3rd week back) and while I'm not concentrating on my face, I do think about it. I didn't lose tone either and I think that's what has helped me in dealing with it....I know it's really not that noticeable unless I smile...and when I smile, I just cover my mouth like when I yawn. I really think it's a mental attitude thing, and for some reason it's just not bugging me....I think for you to get past it you need to work it out for yourself mentally. I really hate when doctors give you a time frame, because for so many of us when that time frame passes, and we're not better, we seem to dwell on it more than others who did not get a time frame. My advice would be to sit down and do some thinking about the reasons why it's so important to you and how that fits into your life...obviously it's not working for you and you need to figure out how to make it work. Honestly, I've been out there and almost no one notices there's something wrong. And if they do, I figure I've had a major life altering event that I'm proud of surviving, and I will answer their questions as to what's the matter with my face. But other than friends and co-workers, no one has asked.
I'm home alone tonight, BF is working, so feel free to give me a call if you need a shoulder. I'll be home around 9 your time...shoot me a note if you don't have my # anymore.