Where to go from here.............

[Static]

Okay, so I haven't been around for awhile and I sure have missed these boards.  Been extremely busy at work and my oldest just graduated and she's also been to orientation for college, parties, puppy, etc!  Anyway, seems I have lots of time on my hands now that I was laid off today.  I feel so screwed that I was laid off just after my kid graduated and I have to apply for college loans, etc.  Looks like I'll be at the unemployment office Monday then job searching but who is going to hire me?  I know my hearing or lack of, seemed to be an issue for those few that I worked with and I sure hope that isn't why they are taking this route because they aren't stupid and obviously I can't be let go because of that, sometimes I wonder or maybe I'm just paranoid.  I can't work with people, i.e. cashier, etc. cuz I can't hear good at all in crowded situations and my tinnitus continues to worsen.  I am now also faced with a major muscle problem on my left shoulder (I am also left handed) so I can't lift and I get winded really quickly.  I just feel like I have so many limitations, what can I do that will make me enough $ to get by and also pay for college!  The state gave me absolutely zero aid since we make so much $$ (in our dreams).  I was just so upset today, as soon as I start to get on my feet again, I get knocked right back down on my ass!  It's so darn frustrating.  Not sure if I can go through more of this again.  I'm really tired of just getting by.  I ate a pint of Ben & Jerry's choc fudge brownie for dinner tonight and my daughter who works at Rita's for the summer is bring me home a chocolate misto.  I really don't need the pounds but I do need the chocolate!

Okay, so thanks for letting me vent.  I know I have to keep on plugging through I just need to find the strength in me to do it!  If it wasn't for my kids depending on me, at times I think I would give up!  I really feel like I can't do this anymore.  I just want to crawl into a hole until it's all okay again.   

[Battyp]

Oh Static..you could have bee nice and shared your ice cream with me!  I too just got laid off today.  I was told due to budget cuts they only needed my 5 hours a week.  I was a full time employee for 9 years with the company.  Then she told me that they were giving my job to someone who lives and hour away.  Hmmm...money to pay them but not me eh?  Sounds fishy to me.  Only problem I have is I'm still on disability through work so can't tell them to shove their 5 hours up their arse, got turned down for ssd, am a single mom (husband died 10 years ago) and am losing my health insurance to boot and I'm uninusrable.  So I'm thinking we need a bigger spoon!  Oh heck, who am I kidding I can't eat chocolate or ice cream as it aggravates my throat too bad  LOL  Not that they've helped me any as of yet but apply at vocational rehab for assitance.  they will help you get retrained for a job.  Encourage your kids to apply for every scholarship they can, pell grant or go to school on student loans.  I feel so lost and so discouraged today.  I'm sure you can relate.  I cant' even collect unemployment at least it sounds like you can.

[ppearl214]

Static,

I'm so so sorry to hear what is going on.... sending you major HUGGLES to help (maybe just a wee bit!)

Ok... we have on the law books the Americans with Disabilities Act. I'm not all that familiar with the actual wording of the law, but you cannot be denied a job for your limitations. I'm not sure what kind of work you normally do but you are to be hired on your performance strengths as long as your limitations do not interfere with the job performance.  Also, contacting a labor atty for a consult may be an idea to make sure that potential employers do right by you in noting your peformance strengths.

Regardless, still sending you huggles.... hang in there.  Got my *coff* cheerleading outfit on cheering you on as you go through this difficult time.

Phyl

[Static]

Thanks guys, I appreciate the support.  Right now I just don't feel like doing all this, I'm tired and I just don't feel like I can handle it.  I'm gonna try to get things in order starting Monday then since my oldest daughter is down the shore for senior week (she's footing the bill, that was the deal when she asked if sbe could go, months ago) I'll probably take my younger daughter down for the day.  Sometimes a nice day on the beach, doing nothing but listening to the ocean and watching the seagulls **** on me (I always get **** on when I'm on the beach!) can help change yer perspective sometimes.  I know many of you are going through tougher things than me and I hope things work out for you.  I do appreciate these boards being here so I can type it all down and get it outta my system.  DH says it will be ok but I'm the one who handles all the finances and it won't, he has no clue.  I do appreciate that he tries, but ..............well, that's like a book so I'll stop here.  Again, hope everyone is doing well or getting better and I do appreciate you all letting me vent! 

[ppearl214]

vent hun!  This is "General Discussion" and you certainly have good cause to rant!

But, still sending you huggles whether you like it or not!

xoxo
Phyl

[Kilroy1976]

It's a small ray of sunshine, but loss of employment might help with your search for financial aid. You might be able to get a better loan, or even a grant if you tell them that your financial circumstances will be different this year than they were last year.

[Static]

I did think about filing a new FAFSA state aid form since they were so generous the first time, hah!  Maybe it will changes things a bit.  I was just looking around on the Pennsyvvania website (that's the state I live in) and I found out that I can apply for unemployment on the web.  Things have really changed since I last had to apply around 26 years ago!  Thanks again for all your support!

[pattyprince]

  I am so sorry to hear about your situation .Things will work out .I am new on this board and am not one to talk on forums any way .I recently found out I have acoustic Neuroma In my right ear and fear it is causing the dizzy and unbalanced feelings I have been trying to ignore for Two years .Then a couple months back I put the phone to my right ear and noticed it did not sound right .I went to a ear nose and throat specialist to later find out thru an MRI of what I have .He has referred me to a Specialist in this area at the University of Minnesota  I go there on the 20th of June

[Static]

Patty,
That sounds pretty much like the same way I found my AN.  Have to get in touch with my neuro since I lost my scrip for my annual MRI and it's a month over due.  Hang in there, hope you figure out what you need to do.

[matti]

Hi Static - I am so sorry this is happening to you and please know that we are all here for you. We need to protect our bartender on the good ship PBW

I think a change of scenery is exactly what you need, even if it's only for a day. It sucks to just get back on your feet, then be knocked down yet again. I keep pushing the easy button I bought at Staples and so far it isn't working, thinking I should change the batteries LOL

Congrats to your daughter on her graduation! Will she be going away to college?

It is healthy to vent, so keep doing it!

Sending big hugs to you and the puppy!
Cheryl

[Static]

Ok, so I got my information today about unemployment (I filed via the internet on Monday) and guess what?  I received paperwork in 14 other languages besides english with everything they sent me.  I guess this is going to sound really rotten, but so be it............what kind of job did someone who couldn't even speak english have that they are collecting unemployment from the government?  Something is seriously wrong here, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out we are giving too much away to people who haven't been in this country very long and don't even make an attempt to adapt to the way things are here.  Ok, that's all I'm going to say, I'm sure that was plenty for those who didn't want to hear it, you should've stopped reading at the 2nd or 3rd sentence.  I am just plain disgusted.  It's no wonder people who really need SSD can't get it because you are from this country, that's it!  Maybe you shouldn't have checked that box!  Ok, I'll stop now.

[Battyp]

I agree, I've run a federal program for 9 years with an educational company and we are required by law to provide the forms in the families native language whatever that may be.  It just seems so wrong to me.  I'm thinking we should make zoey pee on the forms!  LOL