Vonda ~
Thanks for your post about perspective. It raises a good point.
I thinks it's axiomatic that as human beings (movie stars excepted) we're each focused on ourselves a lot more than anyone else may be. I don't think that's egotistical or vain, just reality. We care about how we look and feel on a minute-to minute basis because we have to live in our body. No one else does. Of course I care about how others around me, especially my family, feel - and if they don't look well, I'm concerned - and say so. That's doubly true for children. However, I'm even more concerned about how
I'm feeling today because that will affect how I function. If I think I don't look good (well, 'presentable' will do) that will also affect my state of mind to some extent. In that regard, I think most of us are the same. Of course, I could be wrong.
I don't expect those around me to have the same level of concern for my health or appearance on as I do. I'm sure your mom was just being honest. Although you may be keenly aware of any facial mobility deficits, she isn't and just accepts you as the daughter she's always loved. That you can smile - with teeth showing - is great, but she probably thought you looked just fine even when you couldn't do that. At least, that's the way I would choose to look at it. It's a lot easier that way.
Jim
