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Soundy:
I could write a book. But won't

1. When you talk to me you don't have to talk a lot louder into my face. It doesn't help. If I need to turn my head to hear better I will turn my head.

2. Being SSD and a wonky wobbly walker doesn't mean I am helpless. I may need some help sometimes but I don't exspect or want you to take over things for me. Allow me to try to do for myself first

3. I try to keep upbeat but sometimes I am going to be sad or depressed. Let me mourn what was lost the same way you would allow a cancer or accident victom to mourn the loss of a leg or breast.

4. I am still the same person. Different in ways but still me.

TNMTMAMA:
I am the caregiver and maybe I am not "normal." While loving and supporting my hubby, I would like others to know that I will ask for help when I need it. We are 6 days out from surgery. Many friends and family are INSISTING they will come to the hospital. While they mean well, it is only adding to my anxiety. Everyone handles this in their own way. I don't need a crowd...with people pacing the floor and looking at their watches. I cannot be the perfect hostess for a 15+hour surgery day...so when I tell you that I need to be alone...please respect my wishes...and do not pout. My desire for private time is not meant to be a personal insult. I need your support (from afar) at this time. I also need your patience. When I know something more, and when I am ready, I will call you.

Alix May:
TNMTMAMA, yep, introverts tend to do better alone, or with one close person - I suspect my husband will have his mom or twin sister, or be alone. I hope you can make them respect your wishes.

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