I have been researching this like crazy and still just don't know what to think. I am an active duty soldier, father, and husband- who just doesn't know what this all really means. If anyone knows anything about the doctor I am scheduled with or an information that would be helpful- I'd sure appreciate it.
First, let me join the others in thanking you for your service to our country. It is people like you that protect our freedoms by your willingness to make incredible sacrifices.
Second, let me welcome you to our group. You have joined an exclusive club and, thankfully, have found a great resource at this forum. I can honestly say that this place was the single most important factor in helping me understand what was going on, calm my nerves, research my options and ultimately make a decision on treatment.
Finally, you are well on your way, even if you don't recognize the journey has already started. IMO your three most important things are (in no particular order) 1) Research; 2) Research; 3) Research. If possible, don't limit yourself to a single consult. Research all your options, look at the pros and cons of each, speak to physicians and patients, and then make your decision based on what YOU feel is best.
There is a list of questions the ANA has available to ask doctors during consultations. I don't have the link right now, but I will try to find it ASAP. If someone else has it please feel free to post it!