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Title: Sometimes life is so sad
Post by: saralynn143 on March 22, 2009, 06:27:14 am: Some of you may remember that my father-in-law passed away unexpectedly last October. It has been very hard on my mother-in-law who does not drive and was very dependent on him. She has since had a nasty case of shingles and just had surgery for spinal stenosis at the L3/4 and L4/5 levels.

Yesterday around noon, my brother-in-law and his family were involved in an automobile accident. I'm not sure of the details, but my niece thinks that a pickup hit another pickup, knocking it into their van. My sister-in-law and nieces have been released from the hospital, but my brother-in-law was killed upon impact.

My husband and I told his mother last evening. I think it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life. Tony was a wonderful, gentle man and we will miss him terribly.

Please keep my mother-in-law, Ethel, Tony's wife Marilyn and daughters Julia and Sara, my husband Phil and his other brother John in your prayers.

Sara
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Post by: EJTampa on March 22, 2009, 06:57:24 am: Hello Sara,

What a terrible tragedy. I was so saddened by your news. We will absolutely keep Ethel, Marilyn, Julia, Sara, your husband Phil and his brother John, AND YOU, Sara, in our prayers.

Ernie
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Post by: sgerrard on March 22, 2009, 11:28:57 am: Very sad news, Sara. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Steve
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Post by: wendysig on March 22, 2009, 02:28:58 pm: Sara,

I am so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

Wendy
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Post by: Kaybo on March 22, 2009, 02:35:37 pm: Sara~
That is such a horrible thing - it seems like we are having more than our share of things to pray about here lately, BUT as we can see with Jim & Donnalynn, we must have some pretty powerful ones! I will pray that the Lord will wrap His loving arms around you ALL during this horrible time.

K
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Post by: lori67 on March 22, 2009, 03:00:51 pm: Oh, Sara. I know there's just no right thing to say in a situation like this, but please know that I am so sorry. What an awful thing for any family to have to go through.

I will definitely keep your family in my prayers.

Lori
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Post by: Jim Scott on March 22, 2009, 03:19:47 pm: Sara ~

My condolences on the loss of your brother-in-law. An untimely death is always heartbreaking. I'll be praying for solace for you and your family that are all affected by this terrible tragedy.

Jim
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Post by: Captain Deb on March 22, 2009, 04:52:45 pm: Saralynn,
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry for your loss.

Capt Deb
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Post by: nancyann on March 22, 2009, 05:27:05 pm: Sara: My heart goes out to you & your family.

Keep a peaceful heart, Nancy
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Post by: LADavid on March 22, 2009, 05:40:47 pm: My prayers go out to you and your family, Sara.
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Post by: msmaggie on March 22, 2009, 05:43:44 pm: I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm praying that God will comfort you and your family as you go through this difficult time.

Priscilla
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Post by: yardtick on March 22, 2009, 06:44:01 pm: My thoughts and prayers are also with you and yours......so sorry.

Anne Marie
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Post by: suboo73 on March 22, 2009, 07:34:19 pm: Sara, I am sorry for such sad news about your family and the tragic loss of your brother-in-law.
My thoughts and prayers are also with you and your family.
Sue
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Post by: mimoore on March 23, 2009, 06:05:48 am: Oh Sara, That is sooooo sad. Words can not express how badly I feel for your family. May strength be with you and your family during this difficult time.
Big Hug Michelle :'(
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Post by: Sue on March 23, 2009, 11:16:49 am: Oh, Sara, that's such a tragedy. My sincerest sympathies to you and your family. Words can never express the anguish one feels at news like this, even if we don't know these people personally. I am so terribly sorry.

Sue in Vancouver USA
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Post by: Syl on March 23, 2009, 11:25:46 am: Sara:

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Syl
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Post by: Adrienne on March 23, 2009, 12:10:33 pm: I'm so sorry. I can't imagine. Thank you for sharing this though, as it really does put into perspective what I'm in the midst of.

Huge (hugs) to all of you. I really hope the light starts to shine again.

Adrienne
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Post by: anissa on March 23, 2009, 01:46:35 pm: Oh I am so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family.
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Post by: Sue on March 23, 2009, 02:31:09 pm: This reminds me, sadly, of a time when we lived on the Oregon Coast. A tragic accident, just like this, happened. Car crash, banged up family, except for their oldest son, who was killed instantly. I worked with one of the kids that went to high school with the boy. Small community, terrible loss for everyone. So, so sad. I will continue to pray for you and your family also.

Sue in Vancouver USA
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Post by: ppearl214 on March 23, 2009, 02:33:18 pm: Sara, my very deepest condolences to your husbands family and to you during this very difficult time. God speed.

Phyl
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Post by: saralynn143 on March 23, 2009, 03:08:09 pm: Thank you all so much for your sweet and supportive messages. Visitation has been scheduled for tomorrow afternoon from 4 to 7 with the funeral Wednesday morning at 10.

This is all so senseless. The driver of the pickup that hit Tony's van was cited for speeding and for careless and imprudent driving. The policeman who worked the accident has issued subpoenas for the truck's black box and for the driver's cell phone record. Depending on the results, he may file vehicular manslaughter charges. It is so sad. The driver is only 26 years old and still in the hospital with a lacerated liver.

We are taking comfort in knowing that Tony is in heaven with his dad. The support from family and friends, including my cyberbuddies here, has been tremendous.

Thanks again,
Sara
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Post by: LisaP on March 23, 2009, 05:17:10 pm: Sara,

I am so sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are for you and your family!!

LisaP
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Post by: Jwh on March 23, 2009, 05:46:15 pm: My thoughts are with you and your family.

Jen
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Post by: MKLady on March 23, 2009, 07:48:56 pm: Oh Sara, I'm so so sorry. You will all definitely be in my thoughts and prayers.

Susan
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Post by: Keri on March 23, 2009, 07:51:03 pm: Dear Sara,
I'm so sorry about the tragic loss in your family. I will be praying for you all too.
I commented on your daughter's game earlier without reading this post. I didn't realize what had happened in your family.
I'm praying God's comfort and help will be very evident to your family.

keri
Title: Re: Sometimes life is so sad
Post by: saralynn143 on March 24, 2009, 12:41:36 pm: Thanks everyone. As soon as I've taken a shower and picked up the kids, we're on our way to the visitation. The funeral is tomorrow at 10 a.m. Keeping busy has been helpful.

Thanks again for all the love and support.

Sara
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Post by: Brendalu on March 24, 2009, 05:11:22 pm: Sara,
I am so sorry to hear of your family's loss. Please accept my deepest sympathy. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs,
Brenda
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Post by: CROOKEDSMILE on March 24, 2009, 06:42:42 pm: Sara,
Thinking of you and your family.
Much Love,
Angie
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Post by: stoneaxe on March 25, 2009, 10:23:15 am: Sara,

So sorry, what a tragic senseless loss. It's moments like this that makes you realize how important every day is.

Bob
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Post by: Mickey on March 25, 2009, 10:28:27 am: So sorry for your loss. Prayers are with you, Mickey
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Post by: saralynn143 on March 25, 2009, 08:11:35 pm: Thank you all again for your kind thoughts and prayers. God blessed us with a lovely day. The service was beautiful and uplifting. The sun was shining and the spring flowers were blooming. Tony was widely loved and will be forever missed.

We are so blessed that the girls were not killed as well. They are all recovering nicely from their physical injuries, but of course the heartache will take much longer to heal. My husband took pictures of the van on his cell phone when he and his other brother went to pick up personal items, and I am amazed that they survived the accident.

Take an extra minute tonight to tell your loved ones what they mean to you. Our lives can change in an instant.

Take care,
Sara
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Post by: Keri on March 25, 2009, 09:01:35 pm: Thank you, Sara, for sharing this. I was thinking of you and praying for you today. I will continue to do so for you and your family.

Keri
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Post by: tenai98 on March 27, 2009, 06:12:49 am: Terrible terrible tragedy....My hear goes out to you. One should not have to bury a child...this is very difficult.
My prayers are with the family.
Jo
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Post by: cindyj on March 27, 2009, 08:09:34 am: Oh, Sara, how truly awful - I do not have words that seem right. Certainly thinking of you and your family at this time.

Many hugs,

Cindy