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AN Community => AN Community => Topic started by: CROOKEDSMILE on February 15, 2009, 09:58:01 am
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As most of you know I am pregnant......10 weeks along. I have been on bedrest all weekend long due to bleeding. We think we may have miscarried this morning but won't know for sure until we go to the doctor for an ultrasound on Monday. We saw the little heart beating on our last ultrasound........fearful that we won't tomorrow.
Please say a little prayer.
Angie
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Angie,
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I miscarried many years ago, so I can understand the pain and heartbreak of the situation. Hoping that things are ok tomorrow.
Cathy
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Angie, I bled with my son (third child) and all turned out well. My doctor told me if we already heard the heartbeat before 8 weeks the risk of miscarriage was low.
Definitely praying for you and your baby.
Sara
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Hey Angie
Thinking of you ... I had several weeks of bleeding (bright red) from 10 weeks until 16 weeks with my third child, a subchorionic hematoma - actually very common, and very distressing. That little sucker is now 3 years old and a fiesty one.
Hope all goes well tomorrow and the little bugger is just trying his mom's nerves at a very youthful age.
Ann
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Oh Angie, I am so sorry. I've had a couple of miscarriages, but also bled with my son, who yesterday turned 21. I'll say a prayer for you that it turns out well.
Best,
Marci
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Angie -
I'll say a big prayer for you.
I had two miscarriages, one before my twins and one after, so I know firsthand how devastating miscarriage can be.
I'm hoping for the best tomorrow, but if it's not good news, please remember that we are here for you.
Jan
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Must be the 3rd child syndrome because I too bled carrying Anthony. I was so shocked to find out I was expecting since I had 2 cycles and than break through bleeding. I went to the Dr because I had heart palpitation and was freaked out over it. The Dr did blood work and the next day a got a phone call and told my I was having another baby. After my first prenatal visit I found out was going into my second trimester. My husband and I were stunned. Anthony will be 19 next month.
Listen to your Dr Angie and as Nancyann says "Good Thoughts!"
Anne Mare
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Angie:
I'll be praying for a positive outcome from your ultrasound, tomorrow (Monday).
Jim
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Oh Angie, I hope it will be okay. I had 3 miscarriages, so I, too, know how sad it is. :'( I guess I'm very lucky to have my one son, but I so wish we could have had one more. It just didn't work out that way, for some reason. And since I couldn't afford to go get implanted with 6 embryo's, like some people can, :o I have tried to be content with my one child. But, then, I certainly couldn't have managed 8 babies! Good grief. ::)
You're in my thoughts,
Sue in Vancouver WA
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Angie~
I am so sorry and know all the thoughts that are running through your head right now having to wait until tomorrow's results. I was pregnant 7 times and only have 3 children (& am VERY thankful for the ones I have). At my Dr.'s, they asked you how many pregnancies you have had - when I started bleeding in the middle of the night with Emee, that was the thing that I told Dave I could not do - I couldn't say 8...that was a low point for us. We did make it through the night and I stayed on bedrest for a couple of weeks and wa-la, Emee is now a vivacious 7 year old! (And I had Kendie right after that & didn't miscarry again!)
You are in my prayers!
K
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Oy.. I'll say a little for you also. As one who's been through a miscarriage from the male perspective, I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Stay positive until you know for sure there's something to worry about.
Regards,
Brian
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Angie,
I'll be praying for your, please let us know how you are.
Wendy
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Hey guys.
No Definitive answer yet as clinic was closed due to holiday. But I am pretty certain that I miscarried. Will go for ultrasound in am. Thank you for your prayers.
God is in control,
Angie
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Sometimes a mother knows in her heart what the answer is. I'm so sorry. :'( :'( :'(
Sue in Vancouver USA
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Oh Angie I feel so sad right now.
May you all find the strength to get through this.
Big Hugs.
Michelle :'(
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Know the pain sweetheart. Been there along time ago. I miscarried my first.
Sending you many hugs and kisses :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*
Anne Marie
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Lifting you up in prayer! I too have been down this road and I know how heavy your heart is right now. God's peace be with you, sweetie.
Priscilla
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Angie,
There really aren't any words that will help. Only time as many of us here know. And thanks Brian for the "husband" perspective. I know this is very difficult on the guys as well. My husband went through the wringer right along with me. So Angie, sorry for you and your husband.
Best,
Marci
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Everyone who reads this is saying a big prayer for you and your family, Angie.
Grace
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Hey. It's me. Not good. Very hard going in for the ultrasound to see "nothing" when the last time we looked we saw the little one and a heartbeat. Oh well. I am 38 years old and don't know that I'll try again. Feel like maybe this is God's way of telling me that I am too old. Pretty heartbroken. Now back to the daily grind......go for surgery consult on my eye in March for canthoplasty and back to Nashville for facial therapy. The pregnancy was giving me something MUCH more exciting to think about. Will be hard when our infant car seat arrives at the front door along with other things that we have ordered. Guess we moved too soon! Now if anyone has any suggestions on how to tell a 7 year old and 4 year old let me know. We let it slip and plus I was already showing. UGH. I'm mentally and physically exhausted.
Angie
I'm sooooooooooooo thankful for my two precious little boys. Blessings for sure.
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So, so sorry, Angie. You have been so eloquent here that I am sure that God will give you the right words to tell the boys. I am constantly amazed at how perceptive and understanding children can be.
You are all in my prayers.
Love, Sara
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Tell them God needed another angel... that is what I told my oldest son year old when I lost baby
Brandon at almost 6 months along...David was all excited and couldn't understand why mom was no longer
fat and he didn't have a new sibling ...
almost 30 years ago and I still wonder sometimes about who he might have been had he been born on
time... a year and 10 days later I had twin boys two month early ... they were a handful once I finally got them
home and I thought at the time I had been given two with one to replace the one I lost ...but he was his
own soul and not replaceable ...
If it is meant to be you will have another... my girls were born when I was 36 and 38 ... some things are easier
with these two because I am older ...and some things are harder with them because I am older...
Sorry you have had to go through this ... hugs to you and your family
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Angie, can you have someone call and cancel the order for the car seat? Or if you know when it is arriving, arrange for someone else to be there and take care of returning it?
I think you and your husband need to grieve for this little one before you try to make a decision on whether or not to try again. I know a lot of women who had babies in their late thirties and early forties -- that by itself need not be a reason not to. I was twelve days shy of 37 when my not-so-little boy was born.
Take care of yourself. I wish I could be there to pamper you.
Sara
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So sorry Angie,
take care
laz
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Angie, I have tried to find the words that I think might help you but nothing seems right. The only thing I can think of is to tell your precious boys as soon as possible as they can sense when something is wrong. Children tend to handle bad news better than we think they can. Once you've told them you can all Hug and Hold each other. I will be thinking about you & your family and hoping the support you get here helps in some small way. Jill
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Sorry to hear the sad news. You have my sympathies.
Steve
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think of you and praying for you!!
LisaP
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Angie, I'm very sorry for your family's loss. Take care.
Patrick
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Oh, Angie, so sorry. Wish we could help more, but you know we're all thinking of you and your family.
Cindy
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Angie: My prayers go out to you & your husband. Please try to keep a peaceful heart during this trying time.
Nancy
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Angie -
I am so sorry. If there is anything I can do, please don't hesitate to ask.
Hang in there and know you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Jan
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Angie, I am thinking of you. Have lost a child at 5+ months - it was hard to verbalize to family (grownups), but didn't have to tell my then 2 year old. I know you will find the words. Both my daughters know now (grown) and i just continue to hug them and luv them when i can.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, your husband and your sweet boys.
Sincerely,
Sue
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Give your huband and 2 little boys big, big hugs and take care of yourself. We are all keeping you and your family in our thoughts.
Grace
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Angie, Your family here was just as excited as you so we feel some of your loss. Make sure to let yourself grieve. Your little angel will always be in the back of your thoughts.
I lost one many years ago after getting pregnant with an IUD in so know that it takes time to feel normal again.
We are thinking of you and your family and wish you peace. Cheryl R
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Thanks for the prayers. Although I didn't get the outcome that I wanted.....I do know that it happened for a reason. Today we are enjoying beautiful sunshine in Little Rock....something we haven't had in many weeks and I really feel like this is God's subtle message that these dark days in my life are sure to brighten. My boys: Rivers and Tanner are spoiled rotten with love and when something like this happens it makes you hold onto them a little bit tighter. My husband has been wonderful which helps. My marriage is strong and like Hunter said last night......"Angie, Your time is coming for something great to come your way. It can't always be bad." The last 19 months of my life since facial paralysis, throat paralysis and now the miscarriage has been terrible. I also know that God knows when I can't take anymore and will be my saving grace. I also know that people like our sweet Donnalynn is suffering through something much more serious with her dear husband. I continue to pray for them. Today I am doing what my 88 year Grandmother always tells me to do.......Let Go....Let God.
Angie
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I just read this and my heart sank. There are no words that I can say that will ease you and your family's sadness over the loss. I can only express my deepest sympathies for you all. I will, however, relate a story. After our first miscarriage, we decided to go out of town alone for the weekend. The first moring my wife was awakened by a bird who seemed to be feverishly trying to get into our window. As time went on, when we needed it the most we noticed that there was a little bird involved. Then, one day, we found a Precious Moments figurine ornament. You guessed it, without realizing it there was a little bird on there. To this day, we find comfort in little birds because to us, it's God's way of sending us a message about the baby we lost that everything's okay and the baby is safe in Heaven. Hopefully, you'll find that same comfort.
Regards,
Brian
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Hi Angie,
I'm so sorry too about your loss. I'm also thankful that you are feeling comforted and held by the Lord in the midst of pain.
We will pray for you and your family.
Keri
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Angie ~
Please know that you have my sympathy for your loss and of course, the sympathy of many others who grieve with you. May God comfort you at this trying time.
Jim
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Hi Angie,
I am so sorry. I know exactly what you are feeling right now and even though it was many years ago, it seems like yesterday. Seeing nothing on that ultrasound was the most awful thing ever. I don't know how I got through it. (more than one miscarriage and two failed adoptions) I am blessed to have one and I am grateful that I could accomplish even that. Only time will heal and it will never completely heal. My thoughts are with you; you will get through it and move on. Sending lots of love.
Marci
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Hi Angie,
Hug all your guys and hold them close! I had a miscarriage after having a stillborn, and I remember being so grateful for the family I had, even if it meant I would only have one. I never got the sense that God was telling me I was done w/having kids, and went on to have a daughter. Please know that we are holding all of you close in prayer.
Priscilla
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Angie,
I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope the love and support you have from us and your family will help you through this. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Wendy
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Angie,
I'm so sorry for your loss. Just be sure to hug and love those 2 kids you do have. They are very special, from God.
Please accept my sympathy. This is one thing I've never been thru, but I did lose a child at the age of 16. That was tough, b/c I'd met him, and loved him,
and knew his personality. But, no matter how it happens, it's still very hard.
God bless, my friend.
Lacey
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Angie. I don't often cry. I am now. You're in my prayers.
David
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Well. I did tell the little boys and it went really well. I told them that when Mommy's and Daddy's want babies that God plants a tiny seed of life into the mom's tummy. With time that seed of life grows into a baby. I told him that the doctor told us that our little seed of life was not well and that it would not grow into a baby and that we would have to try again. He just looked at me and said........So you mean you bought that pretty little cradle for nothing. I had to chuckle as I was so relieved that he didn't cry. They are both such sweet and thoughtful little boys and I didn't know how they would respond. I don't think they grasp the whole idea of pregnancy and how you get the baby, etc. I think they are still at the stork stage so needless to say all went well and yes we are keeping that pretty little cradle.....just in case.
It is really weird because all week long they didn't come up and rub my tummy or ask any questions about "the baby" as they would normally do. It is almost as if they just knew.
Much love,
Hunter, Rivers , Tanner and me.
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Angie:
At seven and four, children cannot really comprehend the realities of impregnation, gestation and delivery of a baby, much less, a miscarriage. I believe this actually makes it easier for everyone. Although you'll never completely forget, it won't have the same emotional impact on them - and that is probably best. Kids have enough to deal with these days and at at much younger ages, too. In this instance, your boy's innocence is a gift.
Jim
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Hi Jim,
Yeah. I also thought that kids this age were pretty clueless about pregnancy until my 6 year old saw me drinking from a Starbucks coffee cup while pregnant (it was decaff. mint tea) He thought it was coffee and he proceeded to tell me......Ya know Mom you can't drink that because everything you drink the baby drinks from the "umbilical cord". I asked how he knew this and he told me that they had started to study the human body in class. I asked his teacher and she said that they have started Anatomy and Physiology and the last lesson was on the female body. Surely sex education won't be next! He is in the 1st grade. So I was pretty concerned about his response to this miscarriage as kids these days are wAY more educated than I ever was at that age!
Angie