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General Category => AN Issues => Topic started by: Nicole222 on June 01, 2008, 07:55:39 am
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I am only 3 weeks out from surgery and doing fantastic. I do wonder, though, about the fatigue. The smallest tasks or outings really wear me out. Soon, all of the people that are helping me will need to get back to their lives-- and I've got a 22 month old to keep up with. How long did it take for you to feel like you could resume your former level of activity?
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Hello Nicole222
It will get better. The stronger you get the more your head will heal.
Your body will tell you when to slow down. Just take it easy.
I know it is hard right know with a little one. But do take it easy.
eve
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Nicole:
The reality is that although we may 'bounce back' from AN surgery fairly quickly (I did), it takes many months to fully recuperate from this major surgery that is traumatic to our system. Your fatigue will diminish, but maybe not for some time.
I know that sounds ambiguous, and it is, but only because we're all different and it becomes impossible to put an exact time-frame on when fatigue might finally become a thing of the past. Mine went slowly. I was able to do almost everything I did prior to surgery but it tired me more than usual. I adjusted to that and eventually, months later, realized that my fatigue had pretty much disappeared. It took about six months. For some, it goes away within weeks. For others, fatigue remains an issue for years. There simply is no precise indicator. I wish there were. However, being just 3 weeks post-op, I think your expectations may be just a tad high. Give it another few weeks. Meanwhile, you should be able to do the things you have to do without being noticeably fatigued so I would certainly mention this to your doctor. There may be some underlying cause for the prolonged fatigue you're experiencing, not directly related to the AN.
Meanwhile, rest as much as you're able, eat healthy, try to remain as stress-free as possible and stay connected with us. :)
Jim
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Hi Nicole,
As Jim said, it varies. Not much surprise there; it is (or was) an AN. :)
From time to time, it seems to me that someone points out that toddlers provide a good example of readjusting to the world around us. They are more tentative about moving around; they investigate their balance abilities step by step; and they take frequent naps. Maybe "keeping up" with your 22 month old can also include that approach - especially the frequent rests.
I think you will find that every day and every week, it gets a little better. Do what you can, but don't push too hard or too fast. It will work out.
Steve
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Nicole--
My daughter was 12 months old after my surgery--just starting to walk, and so much less active than your son, so I can well understand how challenging and inconvenient your fatigue must be.
For a while after surgery (a couple of months, I think), I had a sitter (an adult woman) come in for a few hours each morning, which gave me a chance to take long, slow walks to improve my balance, which was really poor for at least 6-8 weeks. Then in the afternoon, I'd nap when my daughter did. I had cleaning help during that period, which really helped too. Any chance that even if your current support network disperses you can book some sitter hours or a weekly (or biweekly) cleaning service, so that you can really whittle down the number of things you need to expend your energy on (and focus most of it on your toddler?)
For me, the fatigue was most intense in the first 2 or 3 months--that was really a period when I HAD to nap each day (and I'm not ordinarily a napper, even if I don't sleep the night before, etc). After that, I had returned to most of my normal activities, even if at a slower pace for a few months longer...
Hang in there--you are only 3 weeks out!
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Nicole -
fatigue can last for weeks or months; as with most things AN, it pretty much depends on the patient.
When I got home from the hospital, I would get worn out just by taking a shower. I remember showering, dressing, and then napping for a few hours :D
Thankfully the fatigue got better with time.
It's been over 10 years since my twins were 22 months old, so I'm not too clear on what they were doing at that age, but I want to say that 22 month olds still need naps. If your daughter is still into napping, try to nap with her - it will give you more energy.
Jan
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Hi Nicole-
Great topic. Fatigue has been the biggest frustration for me, and I, too, wonder when it will get better. I have finally resolved myself to schedule a couple of hours each afternoon for a nap (or at least resting) and that seems to help. I normally have tons of energy, so this whole fatigue thing has been a totally new (and not very welcome!) experience. I find that I am sleeping a good 9 hours each night, and still need to rest each afternoon - amazing.
I am older than you (52, but don't tell anyone ;)), and don't know if that makes any difference or not?
I hope that you start to feel stronger soon - but as everyone else has said, in the meantime, listen to your body. Eat good food, and rest when you need to. (I'm going to follow that advice myself!)
Debbi ... just up from my afternoon nap
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Debbi:
I have my doubts about age being a 'fatigue factor'. I was 63 when I had my surgery (and then, FSR) - and I did just fine. Logically, I could be the exception - but I doubt it. While general health is very likely a factor in the level of fatigue one experiences, post-op, I doubt that any age much below 75 or so is really an issue in healing, and only a minor one, at that. I would assume that youth (under 30) might skew the healing curve a bit but, overall, I doubt that being 40 or 50 or 60 really makes much difference in how long fatigue might last in any one AN surgical patient. Of course, I could be wrong. :)
Jim
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Yep, Jim, I think you are probably right on all counts. Besides, I still think of myself as a young-un! You make a good point about general health being a better indicator than age - and I've definitely got that on my side. I gues the fatigue will just run its course.
Debbi - yawn...
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Jim~
I was 25 and in really good health and hopefully y'all have all figured out by now that I am NOT one to sit around, however, all that said, the AN kicked my tail!! I was WORN OUT for a LONG time (& still really suffer from fatigue at night or if I do too much - that doesn't really stop me but I can handle my limits more now). I realize that I went from nothing to ALL day and a VERY demanding job - teaching 1st grade - I would come home and sleep until the next morning - literally! Summer really helped so I guess that was about 6 months post-op...Anyway, I don't think age had ANYTHING to do with it!! ::)
K
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Hey Nicole
If I remember correctly, I slept through the month of December. You will get your energy back. But why doctors don't clue you into this in advance, I don't know.
David
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I'm 1 year and almost 4 months past my surgery and still suffer from chronic fatigue. My head and my vision still feel like I've had a few drinks when I walk, despite 8 weeks of vestibular therapy. My Dr. wants me to go for another 3 months.
I still find that I need a good nap in the afternoon so my energy doesn't crash. I kind of feel that I need to pace myself so I can get through the day or days without feeling like I'm coming down with the flu or something.
I'm happy to hear it's not like this for everyone...and perhaps it may be worse for some. I guess like everything else about AN surgeries...the outcomes and recoveries vary and are very individualistic.
Dan
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Hi Nicole,
You and I had surgery the same week. It's the same for me too. It isn't easy when your mind has all these tasks and things you'd like to do but the body doesn't cooperate. My doctor said "this was a major surgery, it takes time!" 3 weeks is not that much time after what you went through. I don't have children, so i can't relate to that part but I have learned to pace myself with the tasks I want to do. Hang in there, I hear it gets better!
Kimberly :)
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Kimberly & Nicole,
Your doctors are right, “It is a major surgery, it takes time!"
And it will get better promise.
eve
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I am with Kimberly and Nicole in that fatigue seems to take me more often than I want. I am with the others that it takes time tho. We will alll make it back post procedure strength, just not fast enough. ;)
Brian
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I've really found some solace in your threads on the site. I have a nearly 3 yr old and nearly 5 yr old and I know that if I didn't have them to think about I would be stronger. BUT they make me stronger at the same time. Were you more tired one month-2 weeks out from surgery as well? I'm trying to keep the kids' routines normal without taking on anything new, but find I have no energy after 4-5pm for me-time and prep house/freezer/phone calls/emails, etc. So tired.
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Cynthianz~
More than one Dr. told me that I would ALWAYS be better in the mornings than the evenings. The way it was explained to me was that your body is using extra energy just trying to compensate for the balance each day. When I taught school, the principal said that she could tell the day of the week by looking at my face b/c when I was more tired, my eye would droop more...the end of the week. I just learned to schedule stuff differently. When I was still working outside the home, I didn't make plans for Friday night unless it was absolutely unavoidable. Even now, I can't stay up and "clean up after the kids are in bed" - I do it in the morning. I have found that if I am aware of evening activities ahead of time, it really helps me - I guess I just naturally alter my schedule a bit - of course, this is 12.5 years out! AND weeks like the last 2 and all the end of school activities don't count!!
It WILL get better, it just takes TIME!!! ;)
K