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General Category => AN Issues => Topic started by: Sam Rush on November 19, 2007, 05:51:46 pm

Title: No presents or dinner
Post by: Sam Rush on November 19, 2007, 05:51:46 pm
Today is the 3rd anniversary of my translab AN surgery, and my wife won't buy me a present or make a special dinner!!!  She says it's nothing to celebrate. I disagree. I'l buy myself a new motorcycle and go out for a Tahoe Joe's steak dinner!!
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: leapyrtwins on November 19, 2007, 06:05:02 pm
Sam -

not to add fuel to the fire of your domestic disagreement, but I'm on your side.   3 years - and every year thereafter - is a great reason to celebrate.  Add a good, stiff drink to the steak dinner.  You have every reason to celebrate  :)

Congratulations,

Jan
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: berniejfnp on November 19, 2007, 07:13:45 pm
Sam,

Happy anniversary, this is a big deal!! Go treat yourself and invite your wife to celebrate.  I'ld meet you out with my boys and husband if we were on the west coast.  Celebrate and rejoice, what a journey.

Bernie
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: Mark on November 19, 2007, 07:36:37 pm
That's the spirit Sam. Many of our loved ones struggle to understand just how tough the journey can be for us. I say go for the motor cycle  :D
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: Desilu on November 19, 2007, 07:41:34 pm
Hi Sam,

I think you should celebrate! If your wife doesn't want to go with you, then go with a friend (male) we wouldn't want your wife to get jealous. Just surviving this whole AN thing is a reason to celebrate each and every day! On my 2nd Anniversary (I'm only 2 yrs out) can't remember if I went out to dinner with my son, or I went by myself but I know I treated myself to a good dinner. I felt I deserved it! I wish you the best!  Ann  p.s. what type of motorcycle are you going to buy? I'm sure that will get your wife's attention!
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: er on November 19, 2007, 08:17:04 pm
Good for you Sam!
And congradulations on the 2 years
Do your celebration with a friend
At  my  2 years I got the photo  to your left to celebrate because I didn't have the crooked mouth any more that alone made me feel good when a person saw the photo she asked you are pretty proud of it ( she had never seen the way I really looked  the first   year and 1/2 ) so I showed her a photo of myself at 3 month po and she also said congradulations.


Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: Brendalu on November 19, 2007, 08:38:50 pm
I think it is a huge reason to celebrate.  I'd buy myself two bike's if I thought I could balance on them!  Congratulations, Sam!

Brenda
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: mindyandy on November 19, 2007, 08:55:32 pm
CONGRATS!!!!!! ;)
CELEBRATE...I think when I'm celebrating my anniversary..(I havent had my CK done yet) that hopefully my husband would be there to celebrate with me. People just dont really know what we're going thru or have gone thru. We understand....HAVE A STIFF DRINK FOR ME.
BIG HUGS FOR YOU and once again CONGRATS!!!!!
Mindy
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: lori67 on November 19, 2007, 09:19:28 pm
Happy Anniversary!  I say go for the motorcycle, the dinner, drinks and dessert!! You've earned at least that. 

I hope your balance is pretty good or you might want to look into training wheels for that motorcycle.

Lori   ;D
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: linnilue on November 19, 2007, 09:38:50 pm
I'm with you Sam!  It's 3 years ago that I was diagnosed, the day before Thanksgiving...isn't that nice?!  My anniversary is in January, oh yeah, I turned 50 just before radiation...oh, now i'm really with you.  I think I deserve a BIG rock on this 3rd anniversary and you should go and buy that bike!  Congratulations and Happy Thnaksgiving.  Holly
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: Sam Rush on November 19, 2007, 10:42:29 pm
Thanks to all who responded. My wife is really nice, just doesn't think it was(is) a happy occasion to celebrate.

P.S. The motorcycle is a Honda 750 shadow spirit cruiser,   replaces my BMW 650 dual sport.
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: Omaschwannoma on November 20, 2007, 07:46:01 am
A glowing report Sam, very happy for you.  When I read your post regarding your wife's comments first thought was a scene from the Three Stooges and pie fighting!  If you don't mind I'm going to send this post to my hubby as a hint because my three-year MR is happening first part of December.   ;)

P.S. been wondering if you are still doing the TRT bit.

Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: Patti on November 20, 2007, 08:53:17 am
i, too, have a very nice, supportive husband who remembers my surgery as the worst time in his life.  he will remind me of the day but it depresses him.  i think it's crazy because i think of how lucky i am, but he remembers all the tragic details.  my anniversary is coming up.  as a matter of fact, it is thanksgiving that i knew of my upcoming surgery and had to console a lot of sad relatives.  i even went to a priest to have my last rites (which are not called that anymore), at my mother's request.  i did have a rough time, but i am alive and a good mother and wife!!!!!!  congratulations!  maybe we should celebrate together since our nice spouses are too sad.  patti
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: Gennysmom on November 20, 2007, 11:27:31 am
I celebrated my anniversary by giving myself a full day at the spa, by myself.  I think it's a good thing to celebrate as well, and in my own way liked that I celebrated by myself so that I could be introspective about the ordeal.  Of course, this was the first anniversary, not sure how I'll feel with #2.  Maybe other people around will be fine by then. 

New motorcycle is a great present, I had a ring made...sapphires and white gold.  Hope the steak was good!!!!  You deserve a treat!
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: HeadCase2 on November 20, 2007, 01:42:13 pm
Sam,
  Congrats on the 3 yr anniversary.  And congrats on the new motorcycle.  Are you really complaining about getting a motorcycle over a dinner?  ;)  It sounds like it worked out well for you.  And it sounds like you're doing well if you're riding motorcyles.  I used to ride and race motorcyles, but I've given it up since my reaction times are a bit slower than they used to be.
Regards,
 Rob
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: Jim Scott on November 20, 2007, 03:04:40 pm
Sam:

Congratulations on your 3 year anniversary.

I agree with you that it certainly is something to celebrate but I'm sure you'll find a way to celebrate and remain married.  ;) 

Jim

Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: Samantha n Adrian on November 23, 2007, 01:58:45 pm
Congrats Sam….Happy 3 year!  I know this…..9/6/07 is a day I will NEVER forget for the rest of my life and will celebrate it annually till the day I die!  Glad to hear you are doing well and enjoy the bike!

Adrian
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: 4cm in Pacific Northwest on November 23, 2007, 07:44:33 pm
Sam,

I am at 3 months post op ... I may try getting on a tricycle - but I would not even think of riding (balancing)  a bike yet ... heck knows a motorbike.

Way to go on the 3 year anniversary and the motorbike  8)!

Personally I think that the motorbike sounds more like a "male mid-life crises thing" rather than an "anniversary thing" (ok not a "midlife crises" a "midlife journey") … but that is just my gal  perspective (tease  ;) grin  ;D noogie  ::) LOL  :D)

Cheers,

4

Maybe for my 3 year anniversary I will get a bright red  convertable and hit the Califonia Coast line... ;) :D
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: Sam Rush on November 23, 2007, 08:24:49 pm
To  4

Not a midlife crisis, I"m too old !!!!(64)  Just feels good to ride.  I know how dangerous they are, but my balance is pretty good now, and the noise of the bike nullifies the tinnitus.
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: Captain Deb on November 24, 2007, 01:26:15 pm
Congrats on the new you, ya 3 year old ya! Have a blast on yer bike!!!!!

(http://i235.photobucket.com/albums/ee60/Captdeb_photos/stuntman_jose_motorcycle_jump_wave_.gif)

Capt Deb(http://i235.photobucket.com/albums/ee60/Captdeb_photos/pirate2.gif)
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: GM on November 24, 2007, 06:46:31 pm
I totally agree...you have something to celebrate.  I'd suggest a private celebration, go have a drink (but don't drive...have a designated buddy  :).  Celebrate your achievement.   :)

Gary
Title: Re: No presents or dinner
Post by: Charlotte Lady on November 25, 2007, 11:47:00 am
congrats!  I'm looking forward to my three year anniversary....as well as my three month anniversary, as well as my six month, one year...etc etc.

Donna