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Title: My brother is dying.
Post by: yardtick on January 06, 2011, 12:33:17 pm: I'm just the bearer of more very sad news. My brother Danny is in the last stage of his life. He has been in the hospital since mid Nov. He went in because of complications of diabetes and the hospital was having a problem containing a C-dif outbreak, of course because of his weaken state he came down with it. The treatment has been brutal and it hasn't been successful. His diabetes has also gotten worse. Dan has had two surgeries for gangrene in the last week. Monday he decided to stop all treatment, he doesn't want any more surgeries. He took half a treatment of hemodialysis so his daughter and her family could come in from Ottawa and say their good byes. Now we are keeping him company, waiting for him to fall asleep, slip into a coma and gentle pass away. From what we all understand it will be a painless and very peaceful passing.

Dan will leave behind a wife of 50 years, three grown children, seven grandchildren, two brothers, two sisters and many nieces and nephews. He served in the Canadian Military for 30 years. Please keep him and my family in your prayers. This is a very difficult journey for all who loved him. The memories that are flooding my mind stop me in my tracks. He is a true hero.

Anne Marie
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Post by: saralynn143 on January 06, 2011, 12:37:26 pm: Anne Marie, I'm so sorry and my prayers are with you and your family. I have to leave to take my MIL to the doctor, but I will write more later. My dad passed away under similar circumstances and it was a very peaceful end. God bless Danny.

Sara
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Post by: Kaybo on January 06, 2011, 12:42:49 pm: Anne Marie~
I am truly saddened to hear this...while I am sad for all involved, my heart is truly breaking for YOU - you have been through so much lately and lost some very special people to you. My prayer is for PEACE for YOU, Danny, his family and everyone there. Wish I could just give ya a great big 'ole hug!

K :'(
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Post by: Syl on January 06, 2011, 01:10:59 pm: Anne Marie:

I will keep you, your brother, all your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Syl
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Post by: CHD63 on January 06, 2011, 01:17:48 pm: Oh, Anne Marie, you have had WAY more than your share of grief and sad news lately. You and your brother and families are all in my prayers!

Clarice
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Post by: cindyj on January 06, 2011, 01:26:55 pm: So very sorry to hear this, Anne Marie...prayers and thoughts are with you and your brother's family.

Cindy
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Post by: krbonner on January 06, 2011, 02:02:44 pm: I am so very sorry. I will keep you, your brother, and your families in my thoughts.

Katie
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Post by: msmaggie on January 06, 2011, 03:13:08 pm: Oh, my dear...you have had to bear so much lately! Prayers go up for strength and peace. Your brother sounds like he lived an honorable life, and I know he will be greatly missed by all who knew him.

Priscilla
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Post by: Jim Scott on January 06, 2011, 03:45:32 pm: Anne Marie ~

I'm so sorry to learn of the impending loss of your brother. I've not the slightest doubt that he was a good man as well as a beloved brother to you.

Lean on your friends for strength, and always remember how much you are cared about. Peace, prayers and blessings.

Jim
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Post by: ppearl214 on January 06, 2011, 05:31:19 pm: I'm at a loss to hear of this, AnnMarie. The bloke and I send our love, our prayers and hugglez. He is being strong for you all and I know you are doing the same as well. What a lovely life he has lived....... let his love for you, his family carry you through this most difficult time.

xoxoxoxoox
Phyl
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Post by: tenai98 on January 06, 2011, 05:47:55 pm: I'm so sorry to hear this. You and family will be in my prayers..
JO
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Post by: mk on January 06, 2011, 07:50:26 pm: Hi Anne Marie,

I am so sorry to hear this, after the recent loss of your dear friend. This is really too much to take, so I hope you will find the courage within you to deal with it. At least your brother will not suffer and he will pass peacefully surrounded by people he loves.

I will be thinking about you.
Marianna
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Post by: Brendalu on January 06, 2011, 08:09:23 pm: Anne Marie, I am so sorry. So much tragedy in such a short time. Know that I am keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers. Be kind to yourself and don't forget to take care of you. Hold your loved ones close.
Hugs,
Brenda
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Post by: Jackie on January 06, 2011, 08:59:08 pm: Anne Marie,

May you and your family be embraced with love and healing prayers
and comfort during this very difficult journey. Cherish each other, and hold on to the memories.
Blessings to you and your loved ones,
Jackie
Title: Re: My brother is dying.
Post by: yardtick on January 07, 2011, 12:03:51 am: Thank you so much for all of the kind words, prayers and support. It means a lot to my family and to me. I will update.

Anne Marie
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Post by: leapyrtwins on January 07, 2011, 12:10:37 am: Oh, Anne Marie :'(

I'm at a loss for words and that's just not like me at all.

Prayers and kisses :-* to you and yours.

Please know that we are all thinking of you.

Jan
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Post by: Keri on January 07, 2011, 07:06:49 am: Anne Marie,
I agree with everyone who has spoken their concern for you and your family. Words can't express how sad I am for you and these difficult times you are going through. I am praying for you too.
Keri
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Post by: moe on January 07, 2011, 09:22:29 am: Anne Marie,
Does NOT seem fair that you have to deal with so much grief at the same time. Praying for peace and serenity, courage and strength to you and your family through this time.
Hang in there :-*
Maureen
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Post by: Captain Deb on January 07, 2011, 11:23:44 am: So sorry to hear this sad news, Anne Marie. I am praying for peace for your brother and your family. It is a wonderful thing, this AN family we have formed through a common personal difficulty. It extends not just through our own personal health difficulties, but gives us support in all aspects of our lives. We all love you soooo much.

Blessings to you, Danny, and your family,

Capt Deb
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Post by: yardtick on January 07, 2011, 01:35:21 pm: The love that pours out from my AN family has touched me deeply. I am blessed to have your support.

Anne Marie
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Post by: Brewers7 on January 07, 2011, 02:16:22 pm: Anne Marie,
praying for you down south. Your brother sounds like a wonderful guy. Susan
Title: Re: My brother is dying.
Post by: pjb on January 07, 2011, 03:33:31 pm: I am so sorry for you and your family that is the most difficult thing in the world and there is nothing that you can do but to wait and watch your love one in this last stage of life... But try to focus on all the memorable moments you had with him to try and get you through it .. My prayers and thoughts are with him and his family...

Best Wishes,

Pat
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Post by: dalern on January 07, 2011, 04:22:15 pm: Anne Marie,
I just saw this post. I am so sorry for what you are going through. You have had an awful lot to endure in a short period of time. I am sending love and prayers, and hope that all the good memories can provide you with some comfort.
Thinking of you,
Dale
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Post by: Sue on January 07, 2011, 09:02:32 pm: My condolences to you and your family, Anne Marie.

Sue in Vancouver, WA
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Post by: ombrerose4 on January 07, 2011, 09:04:38 pm: Anne Marie,

I am so sorry to hear about your brother's illness. I know this must be very difficult for all of you. I lost my brother 6 years ago, and then my mom three years later. It is never easy, but time does make it hurt less. Your brother will always be a part of your life, your memories and will always live on in your heart. Try to take solace in that he will no longer be in pain and that he has you and all of his family there with him, loving him. You are all in my prayers,
Lauren
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Post by: Tod on January 07, 2011, 10:03:55 pm: Anne Marie, you are in my thoughts and prayers for all the sorrow you are facing.

tod
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Post by: Angel-1 on January 07, 2011, 10:22:25 pm: Anne Marie,

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I also wanted to thank you for adding me as a friend on Facebook. I'm Angela Hardy Vincent on facebook and I see you on the AN facebook site.

Hugs,
Angela
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Post by: suboo73 on January 08, 2011, 06:34:49 am: Anne Marie,

My thoughts and prayers are also with you, Danny and your extended family.

Sincerely,
Sue
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Post by: Soundy on January 08, 2011, 05:48:24 pm: Sorry to read such sad news ... my prayers are with you all in the coming days ...
sending hugs from tennessee
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Post by: saralynn143 on January 08, 2011, 07:12:51 pm: Anne Marie,

I didn't have time to say everything I was thinking the other day when I first read your post. I understand how overwhelming it is to experience multiple losses having lost my father-in-law, brother-in-law and father within a year's time. Your brother's situation seems very similar to my father's. I wanted to let you know that once my father made his decision to stop treatment, he was able to stop struggling so hard and it was easier on both him and the rest of us. I'm afraid I am not articulating this very well, but Dad's passing was gentle and painless at the end, I think largely in part because he finally accepted it and made the decision himself.

I will keep you and Danny in my prayers. God bless.

Sara
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Post by: wendysig on January 09, 2011, 06:12:27 pm: My dear Ann Marie,

My heart goes out to you and your family in this time of sorrow. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless all of you.

Love
Wendy
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Post by: Keri on January 11, 2011, 01:05:11 pm: Thinking of you, Anne Marie. My prayers are with your family.

Keri
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Post by: yardtick on January 18, 2011, 12:56:22 am: My brother slipped into the arms of St Michael and went home Jan 17 2011 at 10:55 pm.

I am sure Dan is up there with his Captain's uniform on, a big fat cigar in his mouth dishing out the commands. Once a soldier always a soldier.

Anne Marie

PS Folks this had been one difficult New Year :'(
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Post by: suboo73 on January 18, 2011, 04:26:31 am: Ann Marie,

My sincerest condolences to you and your family on the passing of your brother.
May you find peace during this time.
Prayers all around.

Sincerely,
Sue O.
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Post by: Kaybo on January 18, 2011, 06:42:40 am: As I said on FB - I am SO SORRY for your loss...here's hoping that this year is all UP from here on out...

K
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Post by: ppearl214 on January 18, 2011, 06:44:00 am: Healing hugglez, AnnMarie, to you and your loved ones. I am SO very sorry to hear of your loss. Many prayers, thoughts and wishes to you.

My deepest condolence.

xoxoxox
Phyl
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Post by: CHD63 on January 18, 2011, 07:43:01 am: Anne Marie .....

You have been in our thoughts and prayers so much. As you say, this has been one difficult New Year for you. So sorry for your loss. Nothing can take away that empty feeling you have right now.

My prayer is for you and your family to be surrounded by love and the wonderful memories you have.

Clarice
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Post by: Cheryl R on January 18, 2011, 08:06:33 am: Anne Marie, We knew your loss was coming but it is still so very hard when it does happen. You are being thought of and I wish we had the answer to make life easier for you! Big hug to you and wish you well! Cheryl R
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Post by: GRACE1 on January 18, 2011, 09:16:56 am: I just saw your posts about your dear brother. I am so sorry for your loss. Everyone is sending you hugs and prayers.

Take care,
Grace
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Post by: cindyj on January 18, 2011, 09:21:09 am: Thinking of you and your family...yes, you've already been through way too much this year.

Hugs,

Cindy
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Post by: texsooner on January 18, 2011, 09:37:37 am: Very sorry for your loss. Even though you knew it was coming, it's still a difficult time. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Patrick
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Post by: moe on January 18, 2011, 09:37:51 am: I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Healing prayers going your way to you and your family.
Maureen
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Post by: ombrerose4 on January 18, 2011, 09:57:07 am: I am so sorry for your loss. It's never easy even when expected. Hold on to all the wonderful moments you shared with your brother and cherish each one.
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Post by: saralynn143 on January 18, 2011, 10:33:35 am: Anne Marie, I am sorry for your loss. Remember that even as you grieve, heaven is rejoicing and Danny's soul is at peace. I know that it will be a while before anything is comforting. We will keep you in our prayers.

Sara
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Post by: yardtick on January 18, 2011, 11:19:00 am: Thank you so much for the comforting words. You all mean so much to me. I've cried and I've laughed through my tears remember all of the wonderful times. All night long I heard his quiet laugh. I'm just so relieved he went peacefully.

Anne Marie XO
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Post by: Mei Mei on January 18, 2011, 01:21:32 pm: :(
I'm sorry that this has happened to you and your family. Life just isn't fair...at least not a 100% of the time. You're doing the right thing in remembering the good times.
Hugs,
Mei Mei
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Post by: Jim Scott on January 18, 2011, 01:41:35 pm: Ann-Marie ~

Please accept my condolences along with the prayer that you can find solace in your memories of the life and love you shared with your brother.

Jim
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Post by: Keri on January 18, 2011, 03:44:39 pm: i agree with everyone's sentiments.. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. i'm so sorry for your losses and pray you find comfort and peace.

keri
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Post by: Larry on January 18, 2011, 04:12:08 pm: AM,

My deepest condolences to you, your family and your brothers family. It is simply not fair.

laz
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Post by: Debbi on January 18, 2011, 06:10:00 pm: My dear friend, you know that I am thinking of you and your family and sending you all love and prayers. It wounds like Danny was a wonderful man, brother, husband, father, son.

Debbi
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Post by: Sue on January 19, 2011, 02:18:59 am: My condolences also on the loss of your brother. Hugs to you,

Sue in Vancouver
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Post by: SML on January 20, 2011, 04:47:22 pm: Anne Marie,

Our deepest sympathy for the loss of your brother. Rich and I have been away from the website for a little while, but we are still one family here.. and when you hurt, we hurt. I wish we could give you a real hug! We are praying for you, your family and of course for Danny.

Scarlett & Rich
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Post by: Jackie on January 20, 2011, 06:01:52 pm: Anne Marie,

May you seek comfort knowing that your beloved brother's pain is over and though he will be sorely missed, I hope that the care and love and prayers for healing
will embrace you and your family, during this most difficult time.
Jackie
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Post by: Captain Deb on January 20, 2011, 08:18:22 pm: Anne Marie,
I am so sorry for your loss. My dad died 13 years ago today after a long and painful illness so I know how mixed up one's feelings can be following a time like this--you want them to stay and be with you, yet you want their suffering to end. I felt such a sense of relief that my dad's struggle was over, yet the pain of not being able to see him was just about unbearable. Please know we are all here for you.

Blessings to you and your and Danny's family,

Capt Deb
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Post by: Soundy on January 21, 2011, 04:26:47 pm: Sorry for your loss ... continued prayers coming your way
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Post by: leapyrtwins on January 21, 2011, 08:15:09 pm: Anne Marie -

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of Danny, but I'm so thankful he went peacefully.

Prayers and hugs,

Jan
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Post by: tenai98 on January 21, 2011, 08:37:39 pm: AM
So sorry to hear of your loss...you and family in my thoughts and prayers
JO
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Post by: nancyann on January 21, 2011, 09:51:07 pm: Anne Marie: I haven't been posting lately, just came across this. I am so sorry for your loss. I have 2 older brothers, I can't imagine what you are going through.
Seeing you write about a 'cigar' made me laugh (one of my brothers is a cigar smoker). Keep a peaceful heart my friend.
You are in my thoughts & prayers. Nancy
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Post by: dalern on January 22, 2011, 10:23:48 am: Anne Marie,
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. This has been more than a difficult year for you. It can only get better now. I wish you only happy things for the new year. I know it will take some time to recover from these losses. Just let yourself grieve when you feel like it.....it's part of the process.
Condolences to you and your family,
~Dale
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Post by: wendysig on January 22, 2011, 11:38:18 am: Ann Marie,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost one of my brothers after a long illness a few a few years ago and can imagine what you are going through. Please take comfort in knowing that he is at peace and no longer suffering. You and your family continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs,
Wendy
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Post by: badbadbrain67 on January 23, 2011, 03:51:20 am: So sorry to hear of your loss. Having recently lost my mother (and caregiver during my rehab) and knowing she was going to die, I know what you're going through.
All the kind words, thoughts and prayers from our AN family helped me a lot. We will all keep you in our thoughts.

Victor
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Post by: LisaP on January 23, 2011, 10:08:19 am: Hi,

Sorry for the loss of your brother, I too lost a brother to a brain tumor at the age of 49 back in Oct of 08, He left a wife and three children. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

LisaP :'(
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Post by: free2be on January 23, 2011, 04:50:28 pm: Anne Marie,

I am so sorry to hear about your brother. It is hard to understand why when things like this happen. I hope you can take solice in knowing he is at peace and not suffering. But, I know, it doesn't make it much easier. Take care!

Connie
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Post by: yardtick on January 24, 2011, 12:26:07 pm: Thank you everyone for your kind words of support. The funeral was a military one, I have never seen anything so beautiful and moving. At the reception a colleague song Danny Boy and there wasn't a dry eye in the mess hall.

My cousin from Michigan stayed with us and returned for home late yesterday afternoon. I am so tired today. My entire body aches, so I am lying low today.

Once again thank you for your kind words and support,
Anne Marie XO
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Post by: elderbirds on February 06, 2011, 08:21:02 pm: Sorry so for your loss, and yes I agree this has been a bad start to a new year! I can only hope it gets better.
Hope
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Post by: yardtick on February 06, 2011, 08:27:09 pm: Thank you Hope.

Anne Marie
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Post by: pjb on March 13, 2011, 12:44:23 pm: So sorry for your loss I am not on this as much as I would like...

My sincerest sympathy to you and your family.

Sincerely,

Pat
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Post by: yardtick on March 13, 2011, 02:20:48 pm: Thank you Pat.

Anne Marie